ISFJs have a rich inner world that is not usually obvious to observers. They constantly take in information about people and situations that is personally important to them, and store it away. This tremendous store of information is usually startlingly accurate, because the ISFJ has an exceptional memory about things that are important to their value systems. It would not be uncommon for the ISFJ to remember a particular facial expression or conversation in precise detail years after the event occured, if the situation made an impression on the ISFJ.
This is why I’ve started becoming fond of the ISFJ description over the Enneagram 2 one. Besides Myers-Briggs just being more well known, ISFJ provides more of a broad picture of many things, whereas the Enneagram diagnosis is more focused on the “core” need to help and be loved. I will admit that the Enneagram descriptions give more detail into what happens when I become unhealthy versus happy.
But anyways, I definitely have that sort of small observant memory recall. In fact, when I met my other ISFJ, I told her how I remembered this one time we were getting into someone’s car and she sort of turned to me and softly asked, “wait, should we put our things in the trunk…?”. After that she just dropped it and got in without saying anything, which is why that was one of those moments when I realized, “wow, this person is really like me”. And I still remember that moment.
Similarly, I noticed all of the little things that my onee-chan was doing today when no one was watching, like picking up litter and such. And I was also keeping an eye on K throughout a good portion of the night. It’s not like I watch -everybody- all the time–for instance, I didn’t notice when E left–but I notice a lot of these things, because I look out for people.
Also, I know I’ve already gone over this in a previous post, but =dude=.
ISFJs learn best by doing, rather than by reading about something in a book, or applying theory. For this reason, they are not likely to be found in fields which require a lot of conceptual analysis or theory. They value practical application. Traditional methods of higher education, which require a lot of theorizing and abstraction, are likely to be a chore for the ISFJ. The ISFJ learns a task best by being shown its practical application. Once the task is learned, and its practical importance is understood, the ISFJ will faithfully and tirelessly carry through the task to completion. The ISFJ is extremely dependable.
Helllo CS? Not only does this relate to the fact that I skip all my lectures and stuff, but this also speaks to the fact that my favorite CS class was CS107 and basically all of the higher level courses have been “a chore” and impractical, whereas game programming is extremely fun for me because, well, it’s practical, tangible, and important.
The ISFJ has an extremely well-developed sense of space, function, and aesthetic appeal. For that reason, they’re likely to have beautifully furnished, functional homes. They make extremely good interior decorators. This special ability, combined with their sensitivity to other’s feelings and desires, makes them very likely to be great gift-givers – finding the right gift which will be truly appreciated by the recipient.
My onee-chan always comments on this!
More so than other types, ISFJs are extremely aware of their own internal feelings, as well as other people’s feelings. They do not usually express their own feelings, keeping things inside. If they are negative feelings, they may build up inside the ISFJ until they turn into firm judgments against individuals which are difficult to unseed, once set. Many ISFJs learn to express themselves, and find outlets for their powerful emotions.
Y, this seems familiar, yes? Also, lately music production has become one of my outlets. It’s kind of amazing that it can be an outlet, when you think about it–the only reason it is is because I can write full songs so damn quickly…
ISFJs live in a world that is concrete and kind. They are truly warm and kind-hearted, and want to believe the best of people. They value harmony and cooperation, and are likely to be very sensitive to other people’s feelings. People value the ISFJ for their consideration and awareness, and their ability to bring out the best in others by their firm desire to believe the best.
Me and my onee-chan were definitely talking about the “firm desire to believe the best” tonight…I’m also really happy because I know that sometimes (not always! but sometimes!) I really am able to bring out the best in others.
The ISFJ feels a strong sense of responsibility and duty. They take their responsibilities very seriously, and can be counted on to follow through. For this reason, people naturally tend to rely on them. The ISFJ has a difficult time saying “no” when asked to do something, and may become over-burdened. In such cases, the ISFJ does not usually express their difficulties to others, because they intensely dislike conflict, and because they tend to place other people’s needs over their own. The ISFJ needs to learn to identify, value, and express their own needs, if they wish to avoid becoming over-worked and taken for granted.
How many times have I ranted about how no one else is dependable as I am…? Also, my onee-chan was in awe at how high I scored on conscientiousness on the big 5 personality test I took. (97 out of 100! Of course, I also scored 1 out of 100 for extroversion, which is awesome.)
The ISFJ is warm, generous, and dependable. They have many special gifts to offer, in their sensitivity to others, and their strong ability to keep things running smoothly. They need to remember to not be overly critical of themselves, and to give themselves some of the warmth and love which they freely dispense to others.
It’s like someone is writing my autobiography!!! Seriously! *flails hands*
While their work ethic is high on the ISFJ priority list, their families are the centers of their lives. ISFJs are extremely warm and demonstrative within the family circle–and often possessive of their loved ones, as well. When these include Es who want to socialize with the rest of the world, or self-contained ITs, the ISFJ must learn to adjust to these behaviors and not interpret them as rejection.
Right, this used to happen with Kiki. But wait, it gets better…
Being SJs, they place a strong emphasis on conventional behavior (although, unlike STJs, they are usually as concerned with being “nice” as with strict propriety); if any of their nearest and dearest depart from the straight-and-narrow, it causes the ISFJ major embarrassment: the closer the relationship and the more public the act, the more intense the embarrassment (a fact which many of their teenage children take gleeful advantage of).
Didn’t this just happen like a week ago!? It’s the reason I chewed out two of my friends over email, and subsequently felt really really shitty about it…
It doesn’t really matter whether or not the whole personality classification system is “right” or not–you just can’t argue that it’s extremely useful simply by virtue of conveying an obscenely accurate picture of my persona.