Now having played both lead and follow part a lot, I can say that the follows have the easier time dancing. It’s also much easier to improve–you just dance with a bunch of good leads and you learn things as you go along.
But! Being a follow is not without its downsides. And so we should all take a moment to thank the follows for putting up with a bunch of things, including:
-Leads who have bad breath and/or smell bad. This doesn’t happen quite that often, but it’s still much more often than it should be. Ugh.
-Leads asking you to dance and you feel obliged to say yes to be polite even though you don’t want to.
-Leads who make it difficult to waltz. For some reason I have never really danced with follows who make it difficult to do a basic turning waltz step. It happened a few times in social 1, probably, but in social 2 I’ve never had that happen. But here I am as a follow and we’ve got quite a few leads in social 2 who force me to jump through hoops in order to just keep the basic turning step going.
-Leads being too forceful or having a frame that’s way too close (for example, cross-step waltz).
-Leads who either get offbeat and stay offbeat, or worse yet, just have no sense of timing at all.
-Leads who don’t protect you from collisions (though this isn’t bad at all because you can save yourself from most if not all of them).
-Leads who just bounce all over the place so that dancing feels like you’re constantly going over speed bumps.
Yeah, partnering as a follow kind of sucks. I don’t think I’ve ever danced with a girl lead that wasn’t okay though. Hmm…I guess the only ones who suck are men.