Well, it’s been a while since I’ve thought about the Enneagram personality classification system (and even longer since I’ve thought of PLUR), but I just retook a short quiz and here’s the results:
|These same results reported in a histogram.|
Can’t remember how the quiz scored me in the past, actually. I get the feeling that it may not have scored me as a 2 very strongly even when I very confidently and assuredly associated myself with that role.
Here’s type 6:
Type Six in Brief
The committed, security-oriented type. Sixes are reliable, hard-working, responsible, and trustworthy. Excellent “troubleshooters,” they foresee problems and foster cooperation, but can also become defensive, evasive, and anxious—running on stress while complaining about it. They can be cautious and indecisive, but also reactive, defiant and rebellious. They typically have problems with self-doubt and suspicion.At their Best: internally stable and self-reliant, courageously championing themselves and others.
- Basic Fear: Of being without support and guidance
- Basic Desire: To have security and support
- Enneagram Six with a Five-Wing: “The Defender”
- Enneagram Six with a Seven-Wing: “The Buddy”
Key Motivations: Want to have security, to feel supported by others, to have certitude and reassurance, to test the attitudes of others toward them, to fight against anxiety and insecurity.
Not totally wrong, actually. The running on stress while complaining about it is…well, not entirely accurate, but not entirely inaccurate either. The “reactive, defiant, and rebellious” is not accurate. The basic fear and desire are also not quite there. However, the key motivations aren’t hat off. “testing the attitudes of others toward them” is something that I have perhaps been thinking about slightly more than before…though it’s more of a thought and less of an actual action. I guess the main reason you might see me as a 6 would be the determination with which I attempt to stay true to my friends. But actually, that’s a moot point because I haven’t been doing as good a job of that as in the past. hmm….
So I guess it’s just like before. It was only a short test after all. But let’s look over and see if anything has changed since last time, or if I’m just straight-out a 2 just like before?
Type Two in Brief
Twos are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing, but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing. They are well-meaning and driven to be close to others, but can slip into doing things for others in order to be needed. They typically have problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs. At their Best: unselfish and altruistic, they have unconditional love for others.
- Basic Fear: Of being unwanted, unworthy of being loved
- Basic Desire: To feel loved
- Enneagram Two with a One-Wing: “Servant”
- Enneagram Two with a Three-Wing: “The Host/Hostess”
Key Motivations: Want to be loved, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to get others to respond to them, to vindicate their claims about themselves.
Right, that’s…all still a total bullseye. “problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs” in particular are things that are extremely relevant at the moment.
Are there any other things that look like they might fit now? Last time I said that the other ones that might possibly fit are 1, 3, 4, 6, and 9.
1 is the reformer. no…i don’t want to change the world at all.
3 is the achiever. nope, i’m not ambitious.
4 is the individualist. This one is actually somewhat interesting.
Type Four in Brief
Fours are self-aware, sensitive, and reserved. They are emotionally honest, creative, and personal, but can also be moody and self-conscious. Withholding themselves from others due to feeling vulnerable and defective, they can also feel disdainful and exempt from ordinary ways of living. They typically have problems with melancholy, self-indulgence, and self-pity. At their Best: inspired and highly creative, they are able to renew themselves and transform their experiences.
- Basic Fear: That they have no identity or personal significance
- Basic Desire: To find themselves and their significance (to create an
- Enneagram Four with a Three-Wing: “The Aristocrat”
- Enneagram Four with a Five-Wing: “The Bohemian”
Key Motivations: Want to express themselves and their individuality, to create and surround themselves with beauty, to maintain certain moods and feelings, to withdraw to protect their self-image, to take care of emotional needs before attending to anything else, to attract a “rescuer.”
The basic fear and desire are definitely off. I know that I have an identity and a significance; there’s no fear of that. But I am moody and self-conscious. I withhold myself from others, but…not because of feeling vulnerable. I am exempt from ordinary ways of living, sure, and have problems with melancholy and self-pity, sure. I don’t want to express myself though, but I do want to take care of emotional needs and in particular, “attract a rescuer”. So this one isn’t really right on, but it’s not -too- far off either.
6 is the loyalist. I already touched upon that.
9 is the peacemaker. I don’t think it’s terribly wrong, but…it’s definitely not right either.
So yep, I’m still the same…but just a bit healthier. Or at least, I’d like to think so!
Let’s look at some of the other details of the type 2–perhaps stuff we haven’t looked at before:
Eating disorders and addictions for type 2:
“Abusing food and over-the-counter medications. Bingeing, especially on sweets and carbohydrates. Over-eating from feeling “love-starved.” Hypochondria to look for sympathy.”
Uh, no, not really. Maybe alcohol though. And shopping, haha. But I feel like I binge on those for different reasons. And I don’t really know that you can call it “binging” at all. Over-eating is….well, definitely not applicable here. The hypochondria thing does seem to point to the whole RSI fiasco though. Interesting. Also interesting is something that I realized before when I was talking with BenZhen: the fact that after the RSI fiasco ended the problem moved from the realm of the physical into the realm of the emotional pretty seamlessly. Something I hadn’t really seen very clearly before.
Okay, let’s look at growth recommendations again:
Trying! Though sometimes I worry I am trying to take care of myself in a “bitter” way–saying “well…i don’t =need= you. I’m going to do my own thing” in a passive-aggressive way. I think I’m getting a little better at this though. Slowly. Slowly.
Heh, yeah. I think this is less of a problem nowadays. I don’t think I’m doing the whole “do things for others because I need and want things from them” as much nowadays.
I guess…I mean I do accept the no thank you’s, so that’s fine. I think I do intuit other people’s needs better than they do at times though. I’m very perceptive, or at least I’ve been told that. I guess what I do need to work on is being able to throw away an act, if it falls through. I have a hard time dealing with things when they don’t work out like they “should” in my mind, so I need to be more flexible and willing to just let things go.
Er…who knows whether I’m doing this correctly or not. I guess I don’t think I’m having an issue with this. I hope I’m not.
Also a tricky one to reason about. I’m not sure, really, because it’s something that’s ingrained.
Sleepy now so I can’t write anymore. Wish me luck for my day tomorrow…